In a previous blog post, I talked about Awareness and Energy. Quite honestly, I'm working on coming up with a better name for each of these. Here is what they basically mean.
The Awareness / Masculinity - A man is removed from his mind, and is simply being aware.
The Energy / Femininity - A woman is unlocked, open, and being radiant with energy.
So what about men that have a developed feminine side, and women with a masculine side?
The Anima - The inner feminine side that all men have.
The Animus - The inner masculine side that all women have.
You might think of a mommas boy having a developed Anima, and you might think of a business woman having a developed Animus.
Theres nothing wrong with a woman running a business, or a boy wanting shelter from his mother... but it is unhealthy if these individuals are opposing their own core energy.
For instance, a woman that is very core feminine, but learns via her very business-oriented father how to grow up as a business lady, is going to experience from very uncomfortable pains and sufferings in her life. Seriously, what woman that is a better man than most men she meets is going to be happy? No matter how much money she makes.
Or the boy-man who is still living at home, letting his mother take care of him and protect him. This boy-man probably learned alot of masculinity from his mother, she may have been a fix-it-up lady, or took care of the checkbook, or in someway provided this boy-man more masculine teachings than his father did. If he had a real father at all.
Like I said, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with either of these scenarios. But I bet you neither person feels healthy. Both of them will feel like there is a big hole in their being.
Why is this though? It boils down to discovering your own core-energy, your born role in this world.
- If you were born as a straight male, you almost definitely have a masculine core that needs a masculine father AND a feminine mother to help you develop into an adult MAN. Full fledged.
- If you were born as a gay male, or later discovered you find men attractive, you might have a feminine core in a mans body, which mens you will look for other men that supply energy opposite of you. If you are the butch, you'll look for a submissive partner.
- If you were born as a straight woman, you almost definitely have a feminine core that needs a feminine mother AND a masculine father to help you open up to your infinite potential for love and depth.
- If you were born as a lesbian woman, or later discover you find women attractive
The pattern I have noticed is, as men and women grow up into adulthood, they magnify their childhood learnings.
If a man learns alot of masculine things from his mother, and not enough from/with his father, he can still have a masculine core but he will have a very deep connection with the feminine as he grows up, which almost definitely cause him grief in connecting with women, because full-feminine women are looking for the opposing masculine. This guy will tend to mate with women that have a developed masculine side, like his mother, and like the opposite of his own energy. Girl-guy fits with Guy-girl.
I want to reemphasize, there is nothing "wrong" with being a man with a developed feminine side, or a woman with a developed masculine side. If you dont have a partner, you literally CRAVE the opposite energy-role, and will do anything it takes to get it, whether it comes from outside of you, or from within yourself.
As soon as you really are ready for a truly enlightened experience of life, full of love, trust, happiness, and deep connection, you'll stop depending on yourself for both energies, because you will be with your partner that supplies you with the energy set you crave.
When two energy-roles, masculine man and feminine woman, come together, each person can be 100% of the energy they are giving to the other person. This makes for a great relationship, and a great live.
So, what energy-role are you at your core? Develop on that to find the secrets to a happy life.
