Surface vs. Real Communication

One of the things I've discovered in life, is that there is so much more going on below the surface of our communication.

To best explain my ideas, I've created some art. Please click each image to download/view it bigger. Notice the details.

A few short words on the meaning of these artworks.

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The surface level communication (top image): When we are normally communicating with people in life, our eyes are all over the place, our mouths are either speaking or thinking about what to say next. We are doing our best to cram our infinite and abstract self into little packages, and send them off with our "code" or language of choice, [always] in hopes the receiver will interpret and internalize what we really meant. Problem here is, person 1 may see something "greenish" while person 2 may see the exact same thing as "blueish". What I mean here is, everyone perceives things differently. My conclusion here is that its very difficult to truly communicate any meanings, or anything, at this level.

The real level communication (bottom image): To communicate deeper, to make a real connection with a person, simply connect. Be present in the moment, notice little details, do not label or define with the mind. Stop looking around, focus in on their eyes. Infact, while looking at their eyes, focus your gaze to behind their head/eyes. Quieten the mouth, and silence the mind. No thoughts of what to say or do, no words at all. Just be, now, together. My conclusion, with experience, is that deeper connection occurs when surface connection is not engaged.

If you would like to read more in depth about surface and real communication, click here.

Once you have connected deeply with a person, and disengaged your mind from it all... you find that your relationships/friendships/familyships begin to flourish, they begin to just work right. It feels great, and you both feel deeply understood, cared for, and accepted.

Its like we are already hardwired for our own success... we just have to stop 'doing' complex things to really find the simple answer we seek.