[This is my chart of my knowledge on the differences between Masculine/Awareness and Feminine/Energy roles.]
Note, below I am referencing the pure form of each energy. It is possible for a man to have a masculine core with feminine tendencies. I am not referencing "man" and "woman" in the common sense.
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(blogger isnt table friendly)
Its alot like the yin-yang symbol.
White is Masculine/Awareness.
Black is Feminine/Energy.
Each half has a dot of the other inside it.
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To continue the discussion on energies, I have compiled a set of 10 common situations where guys are confronted with problems being with Women.
I explain the situation in perspective, following with a deeper understanding of whats going on, and a new different perspective to spark growth.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Situation A - This man is always trying to figure out "why" a woman is feeling a certain way, he is using logic and reason to help change her mood.
Women want their man to unlock them
Solution - She wants to fully open herself to what she is feeling now, while feeling safety and trust in the man she is with. Even if she "takes it out" on him, he is strong through it all. So, dont try to "figure out" your woman, just let her be, and be ok with that.
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Situation B - This man is trying to get his woman to grow through challenging her constantly. "You need to go to the gym honey" seems helpful to a man, but not a woman.
Problem - Women dont grow through challenge, they resent challenge. They grow through praise, always.
Solution - Stop challenging her, start praising her. Tell her "I love your gorgeous curves!" and that praise will be the energy she needs to become more gorgeous and curvy for you.
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Situation C - This man is always trying to get his woman to "lay off", to stop being crazy and tough to handle.
Whats going on? - Women *are* a test to men. Women need to feel complete trust, freedom, and depth in their man, so that they can fully open themselves up. So, to determine her level of openness, she tests you constantly, never ending.
Problem - If women didn't test men, men would become sloppy, lazy, and mushy.
Solution - Just accept right now that she will never stop testing you. You must simply become stronger so that you can handle her tests, upon which her tests will become more challenging. You will never rest, and thats great. Accept her fully, even when shes ranting and bitching at you.
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Situation D - This man tries to bring up a past "track record" of success when he fails, to take the edge off the failure itself.
Problem - But women dont care about your past and future, as much as they care about how REAL right now really is. And if you messed up, your past success doesn't really matter.
Solution - Just accept that you messed up, you failed. Then, commit to the solution that will help that failure to never happen again. This trust will help her to move on much more smoothly.
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Situation E - This man realizes that sometimes woman can seem feral and unpredictable, even dangerous.
Just stick it out with her man. Do it because you are good at it. Even if you dont believe you are, believe it walking in and watch what happens.
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Situation F - This man expects his woman to be completely obedient and dedicated to him, but its not ok for her to look at or be with any other guys, period.
Problem - This is sourced in that mans insecurity with not feeling like he is 'enough' for his woman. He is afraid that if she's looking around her, she'll find someone better.
Solution - The man must trust in himself, being confident that she will come to him for her real needs and desires in life. Giving her space to do what she wants lets her feel free, and actually *want* to come to you, instead of being forced to.
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Situation G - This man has a problem with a woman saying she will do something, and then she backs out later because she doesn't feel like it.
Whats going on? - A woman's "now" moment is the most real thing she knows or experiences. If she is laughing now, her crying 10 minutes ago means nothing now. When she committed yesterday, she feels different today, and she will not do something she doesn't feel (unless forced).
Solution - Dont expect your woman to definitely commit to anything, doing so is making her be a man. Also, craft your plans so that if she does back out, you'll still be ok and ready to continue with the plan yourself.
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Situation I - This man wants his woman to be able to take care of herself, physically and emotionally.
Whats going on? - Women by nature are fragile and soft. They must develop their own masculine side to be strong and safe in life, alone. This is why they want to find a man who can take care of them, so they can fully focus on opening themselves up, with safety guaranteed.
Solution - Be the decision maker, take care of everything, be honest and trustworthy, let her focus on being female. You will definitely receive back.
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Situation J - This man encounters trouble with hearing his woman talk and talk about confusing and elaborate things that he is getting lost in.
And he wants her to just get to the point already...
And she just wants him to listen and let her flow doing what she does best and enjoying it elegantly so.
Let me tell you, if you find it curious and fun to listen to women like I do, you'll know why its worth it to be present with your woman at all. times.
Its cool man, just allow her to be as complex as she wants to be, and when she stops, have the "and then what happened?" attitude, because you really are curious.
And watch what happens in the connection between you and that woman.
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