"A poor man is also bombarded by opportunity to make money, but he just cant see it because his minds thoughts about poverty are taking priority. He is believing himself into the poverty that he believes is real, beyond his own belief of it." - Andrew Bentley
He is believing himself into the poverty - that he believes is real - beyond his own belief of it.
Universal Truth: Believing is Seeing.
There is a tricky part to this too. If you say you are believing, then you try to "see" if your results are changing yet, you are actually starting to do "seeing is believing", which only creates more of what you've already been getting. To break the cycle, pick a new belief to see new results.
The poor man needs only see the opportunities around him to take them. Once he expands his awareness further, he has found his path to riches.
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- Plant the seed.
- Water the seed.
- Help the seed grow.
- Harvest the fruit.
2) Feelings Flood You - The water. Give the seed all the nutrients it needs. Provide it plenty of positive, confident, energetic, and passionate feelings! Your feelings will either energize you to your goal, or counter-force you back into your current failing results. Remember that you can feel anything, without reason. Be happy now. Feel positive about your new idea!
3) Move Your Body - The growth. Taking action is obviously an expectation to get something you want. Particularly when you have planted your idea seed, and watered it with lots of emotion and attention, your body will naturally be propelled into situations where your actions yield you new results! When that inspiration, creativity, energy, motivation, and decision strikes you, go do it, now! Hesitation and procrastination are silent but deadly killers.
4) Getting Results - The harvest. Now your ideas, feelings, and actions have synchronized you fully with your desire, and "it" is finally yours now. But dont stop, this is where you build momentum! The fruit you have now contains essential seeds, plant these and continue the cycle!
5) Repeat - This is where successful people accelerate their success. During the harvesting of results, more seeds are planted, followed with more feelings and actions, and more harvesting will repeat itself. Each cycle spawns new ones endlessly, and exponentially. And the best part is, it keeps getting better, easier, faster, deeper, and more fulfilling, each time you do it!
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Once you've begun using this, all of these will seem to magically weave together in the most beautifully elegant way:
- People - You'll start meeting them, and they will seek you out too!
- Tools - Physical and mental, what you'll need to use will be provided.
- Energy - Its better than redbull, its infinite, and its yours.
- Ideas - Thoughts, creations, epiphanies, and deeper connections with 'infinite'
- Visuality - The blur in your life starts focusing into a sharp high-definition image.
- Perspectives - New and different views, paradigm shifts, will flood your awareness.
- Time - Everything becomes timeless, and time itself becomes simply a social tool.
- Things - Your focus and awareness on 'things' will magnetize them into your reality.
- Feelings - Your entire body will be flooded with wholistic fulfillment, euphoria and ecstasy.
- Actions - Everything you do will weave together so congruently, like art.
- Wisdom = Knowledge + Experience. In the aftermath of everything, this is the minds expression of itself.
I just recently posted here on my blog about The Right Way to Achieve Anything. (Go read it now and come back!)
In this blog though, I'm going to discuss some of the Wrong Ways to Do Anything.
Its useful to know the wrong way too, so that when you do it, you can catch it, flag it, and eliminate it. If you dont know that "its" wrong, you might keep on doing "it"...
1) Results -> Thoughts -> Feelings -> Actions -> Results (again)
I like to call this the common man's failure. This is what the largest percentage of the population does. These people allow the appearance of things to control their thoughts; hence Results being the starting point.
Bob is meeting new women, and one laughs at him. Bob sees his results as "she's laughing at me". This realization sparks his thoughts about "how" he messed up, and "what" he did wrong, etc. These thoughts are flaring up feelings inside himself, like low self-esteem, low confidence, fear, etc. Now that his thoughts and feelings are swarming around his "negative" results, action is next. He says something else, this time even more incapacitated than before, and makes a bigger fool of himself. Now he has even more reason to feel like an idiot, and so he does. The cycle continues.
Everyone executes this cycle in some way or another! The problem is, its a self-fulfilling prophecy. This means that any results you ever get WILL ALWAYS BE CORRECT. If the results were wrong, you wouldn't be using this method. Thus the endlessness of this cycle.
There is no doubt about it, this is the most common way we all fail at anything we do. If you can become ultra-aware of yourself doing this one, like a hawk, I guarantee that your expansion of awareness alone will bring you astounding results.
This one is interesting, I like to call it your average "addiction". Your starting point is a feeling.
Lets take Bob again, he enjoys drinking alcohol. His "starting point" at a certain moment might be his feeling of wanting to drink a beer. Since a feeling is his starting point, if he just acts instead of critically thinking first, he'll go get a beer. His results are then having that beer, and drinking it. This in turn will affect his thinking, perhaps thinking "man, beer is awesome.", which then spark his feelings about how awesome the beer is, which may even make him get up to go get another. If left unaltered, this cycle can lead to horrible physical and emotional addictions.
While I'm at it though, I'd like to mention a cycle that I've found to be an "alternative" to the main right-way I posted earlier on.
3) Actions -> Results -> Thoughts -> Feelings -> Actions (again)
I like to call this one the "accidental" discoverer. Actions come first, all else follows.
Take Jason for example. Jason has been taught to always go for it and get his hands into what he's doing. If given a choice of passively and actively learning, he will always choose active. One day, Jason is with a woman, and he does something in the spur of the moment. He notices his result is that the woman laughs and is intrigued. This next step can actually be either/or, he'll either think about it and internalize it, then feel about it; or he'll feel good about it, and then think about it later. Either path will bring him forward with new mental knowledge and gut understanding (feeling), and when presented with a new situation, his actions can replicate his success.
This is much better than the wrong-ways, but its not quite the best way. Here, you are normally working with surface-level resources, seemingly at-random results, and overall you're fumbling into success.
What mind tool am I talking about? Visualization
Why is it so powerful? Because it shapes our reality around us. Literally.
Remember back when you were in grade-school, around 5, 6, 7 years old. You would sit in class, listening to the teacher, and eventually your mind would start to wander off. Fantasizing about that new bike, or the new barbie doll, or jumping on the trampoline, or anything you wanted to be doing.
If/when you got caught, your teachers scolded you and told you "Pay attention! Stop daydreaming!"...they were so wrong... Daydreaming is one of the most amazing things that you can do. I'm not exaggerating either. Its great for children, its even better for adults...
But its been so many years since then, most of us are out of practice. How can start doing it again? Even more, why should we?
And when two things are vibrating at the same frequency, they sync up. Like magnets.
Does this sound too esoteric or airy-fairy to you? If so, look at it this way...
- The poor man in our world speaks most about poverty.
- And the rich men in our world speak most about riches.
- It is no coincidence that poor people dont become rich.
- Because they dont know how to become rich.
- Even more, they never visualize riches. Or if they do, its counteracted with visuals of a poor house and empty bank accounts.
- Everything in these peoples lives are there because of their visualizations, emotions, and allowance of surrounding proof to continue manifesting the same into their daily lives...
Think of visualization as a vibration-creator. Any mental-image you view, repeatedly over time, will sync you up with its physical manifestation. Think about coffee, I bet you'll have coffee very soon. Think about the opposite sex, you'll run into it soon. Think about money, watch as the abundant sea of money crashes its waves upon your beach.
Another example: Many sport athletes trainings consists of hardcore visualization techniques. They've hooked athletes up to a machine to monitor heart-rate, etc. They told him to imagine, in his mind, as if he was on the playing field, running with the ball.
Sure enough, his heart started racing and his palms started sweating. His whole body started responding, even muscles started firing off in the same sequence they would while really playing. Researchers realized something breakthrough about this connection...
The unconscious mind cant tell the difference between imagination and reality.
Why is it difficult to believe, when you are suddenly awoken startled, that your dreams really aren't real?
This is magnificent though! Because... we are in control of our minds. Hey you reading this, right now think of a black cat....... What just happened? Now, DONT THINK of a black cat. No really, dont.... Stop!
So, we can visualize anything at any moment. What kind of refrigerator do you have? Does it open to the left or to the right? Top and bottom or side-doors? Whats inside? See, as you think about this, you are visualizing your fridge. I bet you can even see the vague shape of everything you think is in there, the colors, even the sounds opening it, and the smells inside too. You might even feel a little hungry when you see it open up.
This, my friend, is the power of visualization.
We can visualize something, anything... and we then become synced with that frequency (keep visualizing), which brings it into your awareness both mentally and physically... then imagine what you could do with this power.
Its like... you're in a dream. And at any moment you want something, you have it. Snap! Its yours. Except, when your awake, when you think about something, that idea is a seed, and theres a gestation period. As you continue watering it with attention and awareness (visualizing that image constantly), it grows into a large and powerful tree. A redwood even, as you keep watering it.
I have years of experience with this, and I didn't even know it. Beyond any doubt at all I definitely know this works. I have well enough experienced-proof to believe in this, and it takes alot for me to believe something. I have some techniques that will let visualization prove itself though...
Technique #1: Daydreaming about your fantasy life.
- Just take a moment... this is your moment.
- Pick something to visualize, like something you should do later tonight, or tomorrow.
- Something simple, perhaps something thats not at the top of your todo list.
- Now, go into daydream mode.
- See yourself doing that task.
- You possess all the paints, colors, and brushes to use, so make it exactly the way you want to.
- Paint it positive, with bright colors, happy faces, whatever you want.
- You are literally DOING that thing in your head right now.
- Now, while you are visualizing...
- Feel what its like to be doing it, be creative with this.
- Feel excited!
- Feel productive!
- Feel immersed!
- What do you want to feel when your doing/done with it? Feel that.
- And... when your done, come back to the real world.
Technique #2: At night, before you go to bed, visualize your next day. (This one is so powerful)
- Think about the things you must, or want, to do the next day.
- See yourself doing those things.
- Get specific, but keep yourself open to new things.
- Feel what its like to do and accomplish these tasks.
- Remember, what you see and how you feel will be the pieces used to create the actual events in your life, so imagine how you really want the results to be.
This technique alone can literally change your life. You might be thinking "yea right..." but just try it, you cant not get results doing this.
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-CAUTION-WARNING-
This is where most people slip up and are completely blind to a critical counter-intuitive point in life.
Dont try to prove any of this to be true, at least by the standards of person-to-person communication. It'll prove itself to you naturally through experience, but proving it to others is like... just go try it yourself and find out the difficulty.
Its impossible to find the proof when you are looking for it. Why? Lets say you are poor, and you are visualizing being rich! Then, when you're done, you look around and see the proof of poverty literally surrounding you. Just being aware of this itself will counteract all vibrational training you did on riches. Cuz you remember you're actually poor. :(
This is most certainly where the saying "Believing is seeing" proves itself. Thats right, its not "Seeing is believing" at all.
Visualizations work only as well as your belief in them. This is not just hope and faith, but a true knowing that YOUR belief in it literally IS the catalyst, the determining factor, the key, to your success. Without belief, the candle will burn out instantly.
If you want $50,000, visualize it! When you're not visualizing, just imagine this reality as only a residual effect of an old dream that you are waking up from more and more. If you notice you dont have $50,000, just think about having it again. Keep yourself on that money like you actually had it. Thats all that matters. Forget any proof of any lack.
If you are a natural doubter, thats "ok". It'll just take you alot longer to see results, and you might even completely deny and doubt any shreds of proof that come seeping through the cracks.
Just try completely believing in it. Believe in it 100% for at least a couple of weeks. At the end if you dont see any amazing results, stop believing. Haha but that wont happen...
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I'll wrap this up with an example of one of my visualizations. Take note of my process, and try using this to enhance your own process!
- I'm visualizing getting a place to live.
- I see myself talking to some people.
- Shaking hands, smiling, feeling good.
- I see myself looking around at new apartments.
- Seeing big open rooms, saying "hmm, yes yes..."
- Looking at the person I'm with and agreeing.
- Sitting down and writing my finances out.
- Seeing that its all going to work out perfectly!
- And feeling excited! Jumping for joy, literally.
- I see myself moving my stuff from here into my new place.
- Getting everything settled.
- Throwing a new-apartment party.
- Sitting in my chair, reflecting back on everything.
- Feeling relieved, and relaxed, and so happy.
- ...and when I'm ready, I return my awareness back to "now".
- As my day continues, I keep repeating that final frame, the very end goal, over and over.
I'm interested in discovering, what does each person define as success?
By the way, when I say success, I refer to the necessary proof for happiness to exist.
I've talked to business people, engineers, philosophers, lots of different types. And each response is different. I've noticed some interesting patterns...
For instance, business folk tend to say that success is making alot of money. It may also be starting up a business or getting a great job. It could be learning enough to be great at what you do. Generally, their sense of happiness and achievement comes, you guessed it, business.
Engineers find their success in the creation of a great new device, or structure, or organization, generally, when something has reached completion with time and focus, the feeling of achievement is success.
Philosophers have the most interesting responses. Here is what philosophers say success is...
- Discovering the ultimate answers in life.
- Understanding the minds of those before them.
- Achieved by helping to change the thoughts of all naive people.
- Eliminating our own naivity.
- Well, there is no goal to achieve, you cant believe you've achieved it because your senses can fool you.
- An effect of something you dont control, therefore happiness has no grounds to exist.
- Just to name a few. There are some confusingly unfathomable entangled answers I've heard.
They all might be right, but does knowing what success is make them successful? No.
Infact, most people I talk to aren't happy and successful, by their very own defintions. Why is that?
You know what I think it is...
By a raise of hands, who here can just be happy? Without a reason at all. Just be happy, right now, let it flood your body and permiate your surroundings. Open up and expand yourself into happiess, feeling joy and warmth from within your chest, feeling a buzzing radiating outwards in every direction. You know, being happy.
Wait, you did know you can do that at any moment, without needing a reason first... you just forgot you knew. But you remember now.
So, even though you may know what success is, and what to be/do/have/know to be successful... Be sure to spend right now, as often as possible, just being happy, without reason.
You'll find more happiness in your life. And it came from right there, inside yourself...
This metaphor for life really stuck with me.
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A Professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the Professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The Professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "Yes."
The Professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the Professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff."
"If you put the sand into the jar first", he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
When he had finished, there was a profound silence. Then one of the students raised her hand and with a puzzled expression, inquired what the beer represented.
The Professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers."
In a previous blog post, I talked about Awareness and Energy. Quite honestly, I'm working on coming up with a better name for each of these. Here is what they basically mean.
The Awareness / Masculinity - A man is removed from his mind, and is simply being aware.
The Energy / Femininity - A woman is unlocked, open, and being radiant with energy.
So what about men that have a developed feminine side, and women with a masculine side?
The Anima - The inner feminine side that all men have.
The Animus - The inner masculine side that all women have.
You might think of a mommas boy having a developed Anima, and you might think of a business woman having a developed Animus.
Theres nothing wrong with a woman running a business, or a boy wanting shelter from his mother... but it is unhealthy if these individuals are opposing their own core energy.
For instance, a woman that is very core feminine, but learns via her very business-oriented father how to grow up as a business lady, is going to experience from very uncomfortable pains and sufferings in her life. Seriously, what woman that is a better man than most men she meets is going to be happy? No matter how much money she makes.
Or the boy-man who is still living at home, letting his mother take care of him and protect him. This boy-man probably learned alot of masculinity from his mother, she may have been a fix-it-up lady, or took care of the checkbook, or in someway provided this boy-man more masculine teachings than his father did. If he had a real father at all.
Like I said, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with either of these scenarios. But I bet you neither person feels healthy. Both of them will feel like there is a big hole in their being.
Why is this though? It boils down to discovering your own core-energy, your born role in this world.
- If you were born as a straight male, you almost definitely have a masculine core that needs a masculine father AND a feminine mother to help you develop into an adult MAN. Full fledged.
- If you were born as a gay male, or later discovered you find men attractive, you might have a feminine core in a mans body, which mens you will look for other men that supply energy opposite of you. If you are the butch, you'll look for a submissive partner.
- If you were born as a straight woman, you almost definitely have a feminine core that needs a feminine mother AND a masculine father to help you open up to your infinite potential for love and depth.
- If you were born as a lesbian woman, or later discover you find women attractive
The pattern I have noticed is, as men and women grow up into adulthood, they magnify their childhood learnings.
If a man learns alot of masculine things from his mother, and not enough from/with his father, he can still have a masculine core but he will have a very deep connection with the feminine as he grows up, which almost definitely cause him grief in connecting with women, because full-feminine women are looking for the opposing masculine. This guy will tend to mate with women that have a developed masculine side, like his mother, and like the opposite of his own energy. Girl-guy fits with Guy-girl.
I want to reemphasize, there is nothing "wrong" with being a man with a developed feminine side, or a woman with a developed masculine side. If you dont have a partner, you literally CRAVE the opposite energy-role, and will do anything it takes to get it, whether it comes from outside of you, or from within yourself.
As soon as you really are ready for a truly enlightened experience of life, full of love, trust, happiness, and deep connection, you'll stop depending on yourself for both energies, because you will be with your partner that supplies you with the energy set you crave.
When two energy-roles, masculine man and feminine woman, come together, each person can be 100% of the energy they are giving to the other person. This makes for a great relationship, and a great live.
So, what energy-role are you at your core? Develop on that to find the secrets to a happy life.
